When you figure it out, and you learn how to know when the time is right, and you both know how to go about it, it’s really incredible. It’s definitely going to feel like you’re doing your guy a favour instead of for your own pleasure. You can sometimes get away with it if you don’t know what you’re doing, but it’s like trying to do a handstand for the first time without any practice. Learning how to go farther and take a dick or a toy is definitely a skill you have to learn. Even before I came out I had touched myself back there and it was so powerfully good it almost dropped me to my knees in the shower. I wanted it that way and it was erotic to me. I assumed that other than maybe for a medical reason, or maybe some rare fetish, pretty much every gay couple would take turns on top. Being versatile was one of the things I looked forward to when I came out, and when I was young and naive I assumed every other gay guy felt the same way. But the ability to switch places is uniquely gay, and to me that was one of the best things about being gay.
Most of the things about a gay relationship are the same as in a straight relationship. I don’t prefer to bottom or top but I do need both on the menu. In lots of places there are a larger number of strictly bottoms, but in other areas there is an overabundance of tops. Why would I want an easier job? I want it hard, down n' dirty, and want to be exhausted by the end of it. I imagine as a top you have a way easier job during sex Your body is beautiful, and the fact that you found a new way to make yourself feel good shouldn't make you feel dirty. I would imagine so for most people, but hopefully this feeling goes away. You will eventually be able to relax from the start and enjoy immediately. With some time, more experience with using it, and possibly some play with just you and your own butt, you will know how it works. It's a new sensation in an area you haven't had sensation before. You've never had anything up there before. Well, when you are first trying it, yeah. Some men prefer using psyllium husk powder, others swear by the pill (Pure?) A good diet (there's plenty of you want an actual "diet", just search 'bottom diet') and possible some additional fiber. The setup is a complete bitch, but maintenance is easy after that. Think of the butt like a saltwater fish tank. There is a lot of preperation to be done before "receiving" anal sex